Why you should encapsulate your placenta!

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Before you give me the “oh that’s so disgusting! I could never ingest my placenta!” hear me out! Don’t tune me out before we even get started because I can assure you, you’ll be missing out on something great!

When people ask me what I do, and I reply with “I am a placenta encapsulation specialist” I frequently hear “ew that’s so gross”. And if you’re reading this, you may probably be shaking your head saying the same thing thinking I’m some crazy hippie woman. I can assure you, I am not!

What I am is someone who has seen the benefits of placenta encapsulation first hand. I have watched countless women take their pills or their tincture and completely be astonished by the results. I have watched women suffer for years with postpartum depression and after their new bundle arrives they start taking their pills and suddenly they aren’t so sad anymore. They can laugh and really enjoy their new baby.

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You are probably wondering what the benefits of ingesting your placenta are. Well let me tell you!

  • Decrease in postpartum depression levels
  • Restores iron levels in your blood
  • Increase in milk production
  • Release of extra oxytocin which helps aid in bonding with baby
  • Helps return the uterus to its original size
  • Increase in CRH- A stress reducing hormone
  • Aids in postpartum healing
  • Increased energy

These are just a few of the benefits that could happen if you chose to encapsulate your placenta!

I would also like to mention that with placenta encapsulation you can also have a tincture done. A placenta tincture virtually has an endless shelf life. It has been known to help the mother as she goes through menopause and help the daughter as she hits puberty. If you don’t believe me, try it! Let the encapsulated placenta speak for itself!

 

Much love, MFDS

 

 

 

 

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A Cutters Story

I’m going to get very real for a moment. No jokes, no laughs, just truth. With the release of “Thirteen Reasons Why” I think it’s important to talk about this. If you may be triggered by self harm, please turn away now.

I am a cutter. I say am because although it has been any years (since November of 2009 to be exact) I will always bare the scars that adorn my body in various places. I will always catch sideways looks when people see them and my kids will always question what they are. For a long time this really bothered me. That’s why at first I attempted to cover them with tattoos in hopes people wouldn’t notice. But the reality is, maybe if people did notice that would open the door for conversation. Self harm is such a taboo topic but it is SO prevalent in our teenagers, and even some adults! You cannot turn a blind eye and expect it to go away because it just doesn’t.

 

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Many years later and my scars are still telling my story.

 

I was made fun of a LOT in high school, literally to the point where people would write rude words on my locker. Things like “dyke, slut, bitch, ugly whore”. People would make fun of my teeth or my glasses. To some of you this may not seem like anything, even watching the show my husband made the comment “she’s taking everything way to personal and she’s so dramatic”. The fact is that it IS personal! What some may see as innocent others find detrimental. Those people in high school had a huge impact on who I am today. It was the bullying that led me to cutting to begin with. What started as an innocent joke sent a teenage girl into deep depression.

I’m not telling you this because I want you to feel bad for me, I don’t! I have survived. I now have a great life and thick skin. I still get made fun of for my weight and my teeth but I’ve learned that people are just cruel. I’m telling you this because you need to know that your “innocent” jokes aren’t so innocent. That making fun of someone for ANY reason is NOT okay! You never truly know what is going on in that person’s life or how they are feeling. You never know the impact that your harsh words may have on a person’s life. Think before you speak.

If you come across someone who may self harm, talk to them. Try to understand them. I owe my life to my husband Seth and Mrs. Walter’s (High school

 social worker). They saved me on more occasions than one. Be the positive that someone needs rather than another negative. Life is hard without bullying, let’s not make it worse.

Parents, if this if your child, seek help immediately! I wish more people would have stepped in and provided the support I needed. This is a real issue and should not be ignored. I’m not going to tell you it will be easy, because its not, but I promise they will thank you later!

 

Much Love,

SHM

 

From Mediocre to Great

Its the little things. You know it, I know it, we ALL know it. We can hide from it all we want but the fact is,  the little things matter! This could not be more true that with your marriage/relationship. Let me tell you how I almost destroyed my marriage, and how I am still working to make it more than mediocre. Who wants a mediocre marriage anyways? We should all strive to make it GREAT!

When we first got married I used to write about my problems on Facebook. Many nights my marriage was the topic of choice. He didn’t pack my moving truck correctly, he didn’t show me enough attention, blah blah blah. Anything that upset me automatically went to Facebook, almost as a way to gain support and ammunition for my next argument. “Well Jane agreed that it was stupid of you to fold your socks. Who does that anyways?”. In all honesty, I was a shitty wife! And I’m ashamed that my husband ever had to endure that amount of disrespect and embarrassment.  What seems like something harmless can usually do the most damage, and it did! In my mind all I wanted was justification for my feelings/actions but in his mind I did not respect his difference in opinion or is needs. Essentially I was degrading him to make myself feel better. If you didn’t know this already, that’s a big no no. Under NO circumstance is it okay to make someone feel lesser of themselves just to make yourself feel better. And who wants their friends to believe that they have a shitty husband? Now I strive to build him up, to make other people say “man you’re lucky to be his wife” because you know what? I am VERY lucky!

I also would knit pick. Now this one I really struggle with even now. Old habits die hard, but they do indeed die if you put in the effort. Lets go back to the sock scenario. My husband separates his long work socks from his every day socks. In the beginning of our marriage this annoyed me to know end. Who was he to expect me to separate his socks? That’s ridiculous! But was it really? No. I used to complain about every little move he made that I thought was wrong. He didn’t fold the laundry my way, he didn’t load the dishwasher my way. He didn’t pick out matching clothes for our kids. The list is endless. If it wasn’t done BY ME then it was wrong. And then something magical happened. Instead of listening to me bitch and degrade him, he just stopped helping. Oh and there was more bitching to be had. How dare he! But you know what? I was selfish and ungrateful! I had demanded, not even asked, I demanded his help and here I was tearing him down for not doing it my way. Wrong move honey.  Its a sure fire way to get him to quit helping  altogether!

Anyone else got caught up in their feelings and denied him sex? Am I the only one? Surely not! After all “women only control one thing and that’s sex” right? Right? Men need sex the way women need romance and attention. Sex is not only a way to feel closer physically but emotionally as well, and that is true for both men and women! By constantly putting his needs on the back burner you’re setting yourself up for the same response from him. We demand our needs be met yet we so often forget that he has needs too. Often we are to tired, just not in the mood, or all touched out. In our minds that is reasonable, after all we’ve had a long day chasing kids. But for the average man its almost like saying “I don’t love or desire you anymore”, and for men this can be a huge hit. I never realized how huge of an impact this had until my husband said “you hate me don’t you?” when I turned him down for the 10th night in a row. His statement couldn’t have been further from the truth, but in his mind I didn’t want to be close to him in the way he needed so he felt unloved and neglected. I’m not saying you should be his sex slave, I’m saying you should think about your reasons for saying no and ask yourself if its worth hurting your marriage over.

Our marriage was not a healthy marriage in the beginning. I’m ashamed that either of us acted the way that we did, but honestly, its become the norm in todays society. You make one mistake and I’m gone. Divorce is on the rise because its easier than putting the work and effort into it. I chose to take the road less travelled so to speak. I chose to honor and love my husband in all that I do. Do I fall short? Almost every day! We all do! But I wake up and tell myself, today you will be a better wife than yesterday! It takes effort, it takes commitment, it takes selflessness. Its easy to get caught up in the me me me of life. But I am prime example, if you put yourself aside and put your spouses needs first, it will make a world of difference.

I started by letting go and realizing that he is human and humans make mistakes. I make mistakes daily, why can’t he? Once I realized the double standard Ive been working hard to fix it. Now I’m working on not picking apart every move that he makes. We are different people with different opinions and mannerisms. I cannot expect him to do everything the exact way I *think* it should be done. And I show him I love him daily. I do the extra little things without him needing to ask, I tell him I love him often, and I remind him that I am in this for the long haul. Poor man is stuck with me till death do us part! I won’t be another statistic, will you?

 

Much Love,
SHM

 

 

Has Bitterness Taken Over?

I’ve spent much of my life being bitter for one reason or another. I grew up with drug addicted parents and grandparents. My mother had me at 14 and my grandmother raised me. My father has never played a huge role in my life. None of this is new to me. At the age of 25 its pretty much all I’ve known. Even now I do not have a picture perfect life.

On Christmas I didn’t realize just HOW bitter I was until my mother showed up. She had worked Christmas day and was already angry. She came in complaining about EVERYTHING, I am not exaggerating. I cut the turkey to soon, the potatoes were to lumpy, the sweet potatoes weren’t good, I forgot to stuff the turkey, and “why did you cook it all so early?” (dinner was to be done at 3 and it was. Everyone else was late). If she could get upset about it, she did.  I got so angry with her so I went to my daughters room to nurse her and cried as I  prayed that she not know the bitterness that was in my mothers heart. That she be joyous and happy. And then it dawned on me…. Here I was praying she not be like my mother but often times I have said to myself “man I sound like my mother”. I cried harder. I am just as bitter as she is, but for what reason? Because my life did not go as planned? Because I hit a few rough patches?

So for the last few days I have been doing research, studying, making myself aware of the physical and emotional toll being bitter takes on your body. Did you know bitterness can make you physically sick? Well it can. And then I was trying to think of ways that I could let go of some of my bitterness and learn to “forget”. One of the common traits of a bitter person is that they replay things over and over in their head. I do this frequently. So I came up with a list of things I can do to help. Its small,  but even in a few days my husband has noticed a difference. He said “thank you for being patient with me and not getting upset about the little stuff”. Here is my list of 4 things you can do to work through your bitterness.

 

  1. Start by evaluating yourself and your surroundings. Are you putting off a happy vibe? Do you constantly talk about everything that is wrong with your life? STOP IT! Complaining is a huge deal for me. I tend to nit pick and complain about everything. “You stirred my coffee the wrong way? How dare you! You should be able to read my mind and KNOW just how I like it! ” Complaining hurts not only you but everyone around you.
  2. Let it go for good. Did someone upset you? Are you replaying that moment in your head over and over? Let it go, and let it go for good! Show them kindness and move on. You cannot change another’s actions but you can change your reaction.
  3. Laugh with your child/ren and family. Find things that make you happy and enjoy them often! For me it is making my kids smile. There is nothing more I love on this earth than to hear their laughs.
  4. Remove the negative people. Bitterness breeds bitterness and it spreads like the plague. Surround yourself with positive and happy people, it is sure to brighten your mood and your life!

Now I know these things are not easy. You cannot choose your family but you can limit your exposure. First, change your mind and your attitude, then change your atmosphere. I cannot tell you it is an easy journey. I cannot tell you exactly how to go about doing these things, what I can tell you is that the benefits are astounding! Start the new year with a new attitude. Let go of your bitterness and make a better life for yourself and those you are around. If I can do it, so can you!

 

Much Love,

SHM